Genesis 2:23-24
......And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.
   And the LORD God planted a garden eastward in Eden; and there he put the man whom he had formed.
And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed
   Dear Reader, stop pointing fingers at any divorcĂ©. Most times, because somebody divorce someone does not mean that they are not a responsible person. I'm not encouraging divorce, I just want to correct the negative impression about it.
   Brethren, true couples fight in order to arrive at better and right conclusion but they don't abuse or curse. Do you even know that anger have positive side. Even our God get angry at us in order to put us back on track, God didn't kill us nor curse.
 Ephesians 4:26  Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Psalms 86:15  But thou, O Lord, art a God full of compassion, and gracious, longsuffering, and plenteous in mercy and truth.
 Hear this bitter truth.  Until you can disagree to agree on some vital issues; and until you can also disagree without solution on some vital issues as well, without any rancor in your marriage, you can't be a true couple. 
  Get it right, anger is inevitable in some cases in marriage but it can be beneficial when understanding and knowledge is rightly applied. 
  For instance, You should expect "NO" from your wife if you want to loan your younger brother the money to pay your children school fees. And as a wife, you should expect "NO" from your husband if you can only be intimate once in Six months due to the nature of your work while you're sleeping under the same roof.
   Another thing in marriage is, true couples do their responsibility at the right time but if peradventure anyone fails to do his/her responsibility due to genuine reason, the other person should cover up for a releaf.
    Dear Readers, do not condemn your partner because of incapability. Instead, solve the problems together until He/She is better. 
  True Couples Understand their weaknesses. Because your wife/husband cannot handle somethings as you can handle it does not make him/her inferior to you. One of the ways to know that you marry the right person is when your weaknesses becomes the strength of your spouse. Therefore, your partner weaknesses does not make him/her a wicked person. 
   True couples have full knowledge of what their home stands for. Some homes stands for prison, some are competition ground, some are social gathering, some stand for fashion parriad while some stands for peace and Joy. As you are reading this article, What does your home stands for. 

Joshua 24:15.
  And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.
   As a Christian counselor. I always tell couples that are about to get marry that in marriage do not consider differences as  weakness but rather consider it as mutual strength. 
   You should know that, as couple in marriage, you are different from each other because your responsibilities are not the same, and you must appreciate it that way.  
  As couples, when you don't understand and appreciate your God's given differences you will inevitable have unnecessary conflict in your marriage.  The knowledge of why you're a man and why she's a woman must be well understood. If not, you will not be able to get along with each other very well and there will be disconnection of emotion; and reason for divorce will begin to set up. 
   As Children of God with Wisdom, you should know that the way you approach marriage determine your longitivity. Why? Because getting married in one thing; while growing in the marriage relationship is another. Therefore, true Couples don't just get marry because of money,  material things, age, peer pressure, parent pressure, or because of society demand etc...
  Get this clear dear readers, the mistake many youths of this age make Is that " because a man/woman have necessary things like Job, house,cars etc doesn't mean that he/she is ready for marital journey.  Marriage is deeper than such things.  That is why you will see some couples that married without even a car and they both made it in life. And you will also see, those who invited famous singers for their wedding, celebrities full the ground but they never made it together. 
     True couples prepare well, not on social media or through celebrities. They prepared well in seeking knowledge and in getting understanding. They are well grounded in wisdom and also in knowledge of  God to face the reality of life in marriage.
     Finally, True Couples are not afraid of marriage challenges. They had prepared before time. To know if you're a true couple, ask yourself this question and answer it right
Thanks for reading. Hope you're blessed
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Written by E.B.Victor
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