WAYS TO AVOID SPOILING YOUR KIDS.
Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
Psalm:127:3
1. Set clear, simple limits Think of it this way:
If you leave no room for reinterpretation, you save yourself arguing later. Listen to the difference between "Oh okay, you can have a cookie..." (plenty of room for hope that a second one might be okay) and "You can have one cookie, but don't ask me for a second one. This is it...
2. Stick to those limits no matter what One really means one.
It's happened to all of us: We say no to more than one cookie, and then we start second-guessing ourselves.
The trick here is to take a long-term view. Maybe a second cookie would be okay just this once, but do you really want to be second-guessed every time you set a limit? That will happen if you change your story.
3. Never give in to begging This one's simple — once you do, you've taught your child that begging works, right?
4. Make your child convince you If she wants something you're not sure about.
5. Require that chores get done before fun You don't do your child any favors by being a softy.
Studies shows that being strict on chores and responsibilities helps them develop the ability to cope with frustration.
6. Don't be afraid to disappoint.
We hate to see our kids sad, but the Stones said it best: You can't always get what you want. Learning to accept disappointment will give your child important coping skills to deal with emotional stress later in life.
7. Let them work for what they want Many experts believe that kids become spoiled when things come too easily, encouraging them to take those things for granted. If your child wants a new toy, set up a reward system for good behavior and let him earn it bit by bit.
Whoso loveth instruction loveth knowledge: but he that hateth reproof is brutish..
Proverbs:12:1.
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