Why do Christian marriages fail


    What is Marriage?.
       It is a state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband and wife.

     The beginning of marriage..
   And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
     Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

  God's word about Marriage..
   Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:
1 Peter:3:8

   Why do Christian marriages end up in divorce?
    We should know that society is missing the whole point of marriage in this modern age, and because of this, families are being built without a solid foundation.
       Many christian family overlook some crucial part of their home. Some are even ignorant of devil's devices that can break their pleasant union.
       Allowing third party to settle conflicts which expose their marriage weaknesses. Simple obedience to each other in love and in respect in some Christian home is a big problem. All in the name of " AM THE HEAD OF THE HOUSE " " AM ALSO A LEGAL WIFE OF THIS HOUSE" , pride and deceit have become the yardstick by which they run their home. More so, many couples have undermine the importance of good communication, honesty, intimacy, transparency, forgiving, spirit discipline, moral dressing, family fun etc.
     In another coin. Fear Of God ,Standard moral valued plus undiluted education have become superstition in this jet age. Which is affecting almost 85% marriages now. Yet we fail to ponder on how many destinies have been negatively affected through broken homes.

Let examine some likely factors that causes broken homes and divorce.

1. Engaged couples spend huge amounts of time and money to have a great wedding, but almost no effort preparing for a great marriage. .

     I have come to the conclusion that weddings nowadays have become big business, and people profit heavily from dresses, catering, event coordination, and many more things. But we forgot that weddings distract couples from the important goal of marriage.
   Some families spent huge amount of money on just a day party ( wedding) without a sincere planning for their newly wedded children on what's next; especially the wife family.

2. We view marriage as a contract but not as a covenant..
      God created marriage as something more than a contract. As a covenant, one's focus should not be selfish. A married person should always have their partner's best interests at heart.  It's selfless, and it's timeless and there's NO exit strategy. That's the only way a marriage can really work, but our modern world has lost sight of this.

3. We build marriage on our feelings instead of our commitment..
      There is nothing wrong with feelings, but people should not use their feelings as a foundation because these are fickle.
     Marriage is far too important to be based on feelings. Instead, we need to build marriage upon our commitments even on those days when we're not feeling it. Our modern world worships feelings and is quick to quit on a marriage the moment the feelings change, but the couples must know hat marriage requires choosing to love each other even on those days when you struggle to like each other.

4. We view marriage as a 50-50 partnership..
   While this seems relatively harmless. It's a dangerous perspective to marriage. Husbands and wives would often have a mental scorecard when they go on a "50-50" partnership. So instead, couples should give their best in their marriages 100 percent of the time.

5. We think the happiness of our kids should be a bigger priority than the health of our marriage..
    The wellbeing of one's kids is undoubtedly important. However, if marital health is suffering because taking care of one's marriage has taken a backseat, then something is wrong.  When all the focus is on the children's temporary happiness, we end up harming the kids and harming the marriage at the same time.
  One of the greatest gifts you can give your children is the security that comes from living a unified home where their mom and dad are in a loving, committed marriage with each other.

6. We text more than we talk. People have replaced real interaction with smart phones. If couples can get more face time than screen time, then marriages will be strengthened, guarantees.

7. We have "outsourced" sex and romance..
     One of the reasons why the pornography business is in such high demand is that even couples turn to it instead of turning to each other. "One of the biggest marriage-killers in our modern world is that husbands and wives have stopped pursuing each other and have turned their sexual/romantic fantasies to outside sources like pornography, erotica and graphic romance novels.    
     Modern marriage could instantly improve if we committed to not only being physically monogamous, but striving to be mentally monogamous as well."

8. We think divorce will solve all our problems. Divorce creates more problems instead of solving problems..
      If people often assume that they can jump ship when hardships ensue, then issues will never be resolved.
      "Let's fight for each other instead of fighting against each other!".
       And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.
    God bless your home.
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       Prophet/Evang E.B.Victor..

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